New NC Law: Permanent No Contact Order against Convicted Sex Offenders

The State of North Carolina has passed a law that empowers a judge to issue a permanent no contact order against a convicted sex offender. See NC Session Law 2009-380. Let’s all do a happy dance!! What I find pathetic is that this has not been the law up until this point. As someone who [...]

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Feeling Like an Outsider after Child Abuse

I have recently gotten hooked on the Twilight series by Stephenie Meyer. Although I am not generally interested in vampire stories, I can relate to how Edward and his family feel like outsiders. I have felt like an outsider for most of my life. Edward and his family try to pretend that they are something [...]

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Why Would a Loving God Allow Pain and Child Abuse?

*******Religion triggers******* On my blog entry entitled Reconciling Child Abuse and Faith/Religion, a reader posted the following comment: Anywho… if I can continue our religious discussion: so you contend that the evil of the world is caused by humans. An obvious enough answer. But what does god do as he looks down upon the evil [...]

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Using Music to Help with Healing from Child Abuse

I have recently become a fan of Pandora Radio. This is a great FREE website where you can create your own personalized radio stations. (You will hear periodic short commercials that are only five or ten seconds in length.) Let’s say you really like the Eagles or a particular song, like “Take it Easy.” You [...]

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Reconciling Child Abuse and Faith/Religion

***** religious triggers ***** On my blog entry entitled Talking Very Fast When Triggered, a reader posted the following comment: If I may briefly touch on the subject of religion: I hate to question your beliefs, but I’ll admit that I’m curious about how you reconcile the idea that god is all-powerful, all-merciful, and loving, [...]

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Are Child Abuse Survivors Obligated to Prosecute Their Abusers?

On my blog entry entitled Talking Very Fast When Triggered, a reader posted the following comment: And to wrap things up: if these things you have said are indeed true, then I do not want to judge you too harshly. But I will say that it is sad that the victims of something like this [...]

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Finding Encouragement from Holocaust Survivors

Sorry to be posting late today. I have had a busy week with school starting back for my kid and traveling right beforehand. The Holocaust has been on my mind a lot lately. A friend recommended that I read the book, The Boy in the Striped Pajamas, and I read it while I was at [...]

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What Leads a Family to Marry Child Abusers?

I understand why my mother grew up to be a child abuser. Her parents abused her, and she did the same to my sister and me. I don’t condone it, and I view her as weak, but I do understand that a person who has been abused might repeat what was done to him or [...]

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“Switching” after Healing from Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)

Here’s a new one for you – Have any of you experienced a form of “switching” after healing from Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID)? I think that is what I have been doing, and it is really strange. Let me explain what I mean. Read Nansie’s comment, which I quoted in this blog entry. Now, imagine [...]

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Talking Very Fast When Triggered

Does anyone else talk very fast whenever you are triggered? I used to talk fast all of the time (before therapy), so I guess I was always triggered and/or always feeling an enormous amount of intensity. I would guess that it takes an enormous amount of intensity to stay split into multiple parts. My therapist [...]

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