Not Sure What to do about Draft Letter to Mother/Abuser

As I shared last week, I am at the beach for Spring Break with hub and my son. We are having a good time, so please don’t think I am spending all of my time thinking about my mother/abuser because I am not. However, I am continuing to be plagued by nightmares, causing me to [...]

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Terrible, Wicked Nightmares

Yesterday, I shared that I wrote a draft letter to my mother/abuser that I might or might not send. I want feedback from my sister and best friend as well as all of you before I send it. I had the worst nightmares after writing the letter. I could feel the revolving door of my [...]

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Draft Letter to Mother/Abuser

My sister recently had a birthday. Our mother/abuser called her to wish her a happy birthday and then spent most of the conversation b@#$&ing about why I won’t talk to her. That really rubbed me the wrong way and motivated me to write the following draft letter to my mother/abuser, which I have not sent [...]

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Going on Vacation

Hi, everyone. My family is going on vacation tomorrow for a week at the beach. Hooray! I do have Internet access at the beach, but I don’t know how much time I will have to blog. So, if you don’t hear from me next week, don’t panic. I will be back — hopefully refreshed and [...]

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Relearning the Same Lessons

Does anyone else feel like you are constantly relearning the same lessons? Here is an example of what I mean… When I was the early stages of healing, I got into doing yoga. The first few times I did it, I couldn’t get over how “sore” I was afterward. I came to realize that my [...]

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Life After Child Abuse: I am NOT “Damaged Goods”

I was talking with someone the other day who was describing another person as seeming very sad and insecure. The person then said, “I hope she isn’t damaged goods.” I asked what was meant by the phrase “damaged goods.” The person said, “You know – abused as a child.” Let me be very clear – [...]

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DID: Integration is a Natural Part of the Healing Process

In my blog entry yesterday, I made the following potentially controversial statement: Healing from any form of trauma involves learning how to love and accept each memory and emotion as “mine.” As you do this, you integrate as a natural part of the healing process. ~ Faith I am sure that I will receive comments [...]

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DID: Scared of Integration

On my blog entry entitled Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID): What is Integration?, a reader posted the following comment: I am scared to integrate, will I have all the memories and feelings? I am scared of the feelings as the other parts of me have been writing what happened to them, but for the first time [...]

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DID: Does the Abused Child Create the Multiple System?

On my blog entry entitled DID: Do Alter Parts Always Have Names?, a reader posted the following comment: Interesting post, as usual, Faith. I only am not sure about one thing you said. I think this is an open question: Do multiples chose the way in which they split? My guess is that they (we) [...]

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DID: Do Alter Parts Always Have Names?

On my blog entry entitled DID: Which Part is the “Real Me”?, a reader posted the following questions: Do alters always have a name? And does the person with it live separate lives?? ~ Mia The short answer is no – alter parts do not have to have names. Dissociative identity disorder (DID) is a [...]

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