Society’s Ignorance about Child Abuse

A reader emailed me and asked me to cover the topic of how the world blames the child abuse victims and how the world thinks they know the effects. This is a great topic idea that we need to talk about. My experience is that, while most people are sympathetic to an abused child, they [...]

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Seeing the Abuse as “No Big Deal”

On my blog entry entitled Judging Your Childish Actions Through Adult Eyes, a reader posted the following comment: I’m right now dealing with coming to terms with the fact that what happened was a big deal. I have seen it as “no big deal” because that is what I was taught. Even now, as an [...]

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How to Feel Your Anger toward Your Abusers

On my blog entry entitled A (Helpful) Christian Perspective on Forgiveness after Child Abuse, a reader posted the following comment: I just wishi I could actually feel anger and hatred toward my abusers….at this point I just feel numb about it and frankly don’t even believe most of the stories the other parts of me [...]

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Sibling Child Abuse

Last week, I blogged about child-on-child abuse. It occurred to me that I have not yet covered sibling abuse directly on my blog, so I will rectify that today. Sibling abuse is when a child abuses his or her sibling. The victim can be older, the same age (a twin), or younger, and the child [...]

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Not a Normal Childhood with Normal Girlish Dreams

I had another tough week with the Beth Moore Bible study I am working through entitled Breaking Free. Don’t worry – What I have to talk about today is not religion-based, so there are no religion triggers in it. This week’s focus is on childhood dreams from girlhood and the ways that your faith can [...]

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Regretting being the Perpetrator of Child-on-Child Abuse

Yesterday, I blogged about child-on-child abuse. The focus of that blog entry was to validate the experience of anyone who was abused as a child by another child, whether that child was older, the same age, or even younger than the victim. Some of you who read that blog entry might be struggling with guilt [...]

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Can a Child Abuse Another Child?

On my blog entry entitled Abused Children Don’t Have the Option of Saying No, a reader posted the following comment: To be honest, posts like this invalidate me. My sexual abuse came from a boy who was, while bigger and stronger, only a year older. A lot of people whom I come out to don’t [...]

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Package from Mother/Abuser

As I shared yesterday, I recently recovered another flashback. That happened on Wednesday morning last week. I spent that day shaky and on Xanax to get through the day. I did better on Thursday, taking about half the dose of Xanax and starting to pull out of the triggering. I used my many tools to [...]

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DID: Filled in Another Memory Hole

I am a bit shaky as I write this blog entry because I just recovered another memory that I have been working toward for a while. By the time this blog entry publishes, this will be “old news,” and I will be fine. However, in the moment, I am shaking and have a bad headache. [...]

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A (Helpful) Christian Perspective on Forgiveness after Child Abuse

**** religious triggers **** As I shared previously, I am working through a Bible study right now written by Beth Moore called Breaking Free. Two days of the study during Week 5 are devoted to healing from child victimization. Because I have many readers who are Christians, I thought I would share some of Beth [...]

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