The Only Opinion that Matters is My Own

A huge part of healing for me has been learning to stop letting other people’s opinions of me drive how I feel about myself. I spent most of my life trying unsuccessfully to please those around me. In my opinion, dissociative identity disorder (DID) is the most extreme form of the “people pleaser” because you [...]

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How to Work through Memories of Child Abuse

On my About Faith Allen page, a reader posted the following comment: How do you work through memories? I have a very difficult time working through or blogging about things I remember. It is an extremely painstaking process. And my mind will not even bring up blocked memories. In fact, I got so good at [...]

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DID: Meeting the Needs of Alter Parts

See my blog entry posted yesterday for the first part of this. The other part of Midge’s horror seems to be the cybersex, which goes against the values of the host personality. Keep in mind that women have sexual needs that your host personality might not be fulfilling. My host personality was pretty passionless and [...]

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Example of Seemingly Inconsistent DID Behaviors When Losing Time

On my blog entry entitled DID: Is “Losing Time” a “Bad” Thing?, a reader posted the following comment: Faith said: “Whether your host personality is “out” or not, you are always going to behave consistently with who you are.” I must respectfully disagree with this statement. Here’s why . . . About ten years ago, [...]

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Which theme do you like the best?

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DID: Is “Losing Time” a “Bad” Thing?

My blog entries last week on losing time generated a lot of discussion, so I thought I would revisit the topic from another angle. You can read last week’s blog entries here and here. In the comments, we talked a little bit about whether losing time was a “bad” thing, and I would like to [...]

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Healing Together as Child Abuse Survivors

I have shared before that I work as an online college instructor. In my class, we talk about the importance of teamwork and collaboration. As I was reading through my students’ discussions, I go to thinking about the benefits of teamwork and collaboration in healing from child abuse. So much of what my students were [...]

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10 Signs You are Dealing with a Sociopath

I received an email asking me to share the article 10 Signs You are Dealing with a Sociopath. This article definitely sounds like S & L, my most sadistic abusers who brought me into the cult abuse.

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Pedophile Rings in the News

One area of child abuse that people seem to have a tough time hearing about is pedophile rings. I don’t know why this is because there is no question that child pornography exists, and presumably it is not all orchestrated by one individual. Nevertheless, people seem to be much more open about hearing about my [...]

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Should I keep the new look? (Please Vote)

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