Importance of Talking about the Child Abuse

On my blog entry entitled How Do You Let Yourself Feel the Depths of Your Pain?, a reader posted the following comment: I am not only unable to express emotions, but I can’t even find the words to express what happened to me. I constant struggle with flashbacks, relive horrible memories but unable to share [...]

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How Do You Convince Yourself to Feel the Pain after Child Abuse?

On my blog entry entitled How Do You Let Yourself Feel the Depths of Your Pain?, a reader posted the following comment: I do understand WHAT you saying, I’m just not sure how you actually GET to the point of ‘wanting’ to feel the pain that devastated me and my childhood, in the first place. [...]

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Losing Your Healing Mentor

I shared yesterday that a dear friend of mine passed away. Lori Schmitt was the owner and operator of Isurvive, which is a message board for adult survivors of child abuse. Lori did not create the board. I found it in 2003 (and don’t know how long it had been around before this), and Lori [...]

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Lighting a Candle to Honor a Dear Friend

I have just learned that my friend, Lori, passed away yesterday. Lori was the owner and operator of Isurvive, which is the message board for child abuse survivors that helped me survive the flashback years. Even though we never met face to face, Lori was a dear friend. We were in regular contact through email, [...]

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My Process for Healing from Deep Emotional Pain

My blog entry entitled How Do You Let Yourself Feel the Depths of Your Pain? seems to have struck a chord with several readers, so I am going to talk more about that topic for the rest of the week. On that blog entry, a reader posted the following comment: The only thing I wished [...]

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How Do You Love Again after Betrayal?

On my blog entry entitled Dealing with Judgmental People/Stigma of Child Abuse, a reader posted the following comment: Faith- did u ever love your mother? I mean wholeheartedly love her? I did mine. And then she left me to my abusers without a look back. How do I GET OVER SUCH A BETRAYAL? Can I [...]

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Did I Ever Wholeheartedly Love My Mother/Abuser?

On my blog entry entitled Dealing with Judgmental People/Stigma of Child Abuse, a reader posted the following comment: Faith- did u ever love your mother? I mean wholeheartedly love her? I did mine. And then she left me to my abusers without a look back. How do I GET OVER SUCH A BETRAYAL? Can I [...]

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My Story: Another Piece of My Puzzle

For some reason, I seem to uncover more pieces of my story on Saturday nights. A friend pointed out that the ritual abuse likely happened on Saturday nights, so that might be the connection. Last night, I knew that I had more memories to release. I was in front of the bonfire again at the [...]

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How Do You Let Yourself Feel the Depths of Your Pain?

On my blog entry entitled Inspirational Song: Kutless’ “That’s What Faith Can Do”, a reader posted the following comment: You mentioned that you allowed yourself to feel the depths of your pain. I am just wondering, how did you let yourself do it? ~ Lanna This took a lot of courage, and it did not [...]

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Telling Partner about Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) after Childhood Sexual Abuse

In my blog entry yesterday, I addressed the topic of Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) after child abuse. The same reader who asked me to cover that topic also requested that I discuss how to tell an intimate partner about past sexual abuse and about having an STD. This reader has been reluctant to date anyone [...]

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