Archive for July 4th, 2008

Clock tower (c) Lynda BernhardtHappy Fourth of July everyone!! Well, Happy Fourth of July to those of you in the United States. Those of you who are from other countries probably do not give a flip about the United States’ Independence Day. LOL

I have written before about how holidays can be challenging for child abuse survivors. (See the Related Topics below for links.) Unfortunately, for those who grew up in abusive households, the holidays meant being separated from any positive support people and being thrust into being surrounded by abusive and enabling family members. This is one of the reasons why the Christmas holidays are so triggering for me. I am reminded of how isolated and alone I felt as my friends celebrated the holidays with their families, and I was stuck feeling miserable with my family at home. To this day, I find the holidays to be challenging.

Fortunately for me, I have no memories of child abuse that are linked to the Fourth of July, so this is one of those holidays in which I do not have to feel miserable. That is definitely a relief. It feels good (and novel) not to dread a holiday.

I cannot say that I look forward to the Fourth of July, but its coming does not bother me, either – well, other than having to comfort my child as he is awakened multiple times by the sound of fireworks. Gosh, I sound like a cranky old lady, don’t I?

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