Archive for August 27th, 2008

Over on my professional blog, I write about how trauma affects children on Trauma Tuesdays and Trauma Thursdays. I write this blog for people whose lives are touched by adoption. Most of the people who read my trauma articles are either foster parents or adoptive parents who are parenting children who have suffered from trauma, such as child abuse. I try to explain the mind of the abused child so that the parents can have a better understanding about why their children act and react the way that they do.

A therapist who has healed from dissociative identity disorder (DID) contacted me about a new blog that she has started called Forbidden Topic. Her blog is so good that I added it to my resources section. Like me, this woman is hoping to break the silence and correct the misperceptions that pervade society about dissociation and DID.

If you struggle with dissociation, including DID, or just want to learn more about it, her blog is a wonderful resource.

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One of the questions I have been asked a lot about ritual abuse is if certain numbers trigger me. The answer is yes, and this is true for most ritual abuse survivors.

When I was brought into the cult, I was assigned a number as a name. My sister was assigned the next number. I have always been bothered by both numbers but particularly by the number assigned to me. I was not “Faith” to the cult. I was just a number. What really bothers me is that my number was not 1, so that means that other children came before me.

Most ritual abuse survivors are triggered by the numbers 6 and 9 but do not know why. I can provide some insight into this.

The Number Six

Ritual abuse generally desecrates Christianity, which (I assume) accounts for it being viewed as “Satanic”. The issue with the number six comes straight out of the Bible from the book of Revelation:

This calls for wisdom. If anyone has insight, let him calculate the number of the beast, for it is man’s number. His number is 666. – Rev. 13:18

Many ritual abuse survivors find the number six to be triggering. I cannot tell you specifically what is done to bring about this reaction, only that it is common among ritual abuse survivors.

The Number Nine

The number nine is a little trickier. A fellow ritual abuse survivor explained it to me this way: 6 + 6 + 6 = 18; and 1 + 8 = 9. So, ritual abusers see the number nine as significant and step up the ritual abuse when the child reaches the age of nine. This accounts for why I experienced some forms of severe ritual abuse that my sister did not. (She was 8 when we moved away from the cult.)

I do not know why numerology factors into ritual abuse, only that it does. If you suffered from ritual abuse and are triggered by different numbers, you are not alone.

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