Archive for April 8th, 2009

I know this is not related to child abuse, but I had to put my beloved 16-year-old beagle to sleep this morning. It was long past due. He was mostly blind and deaf, and he was in constant paint. We had him on three pain medications, but it wasn’t enough. It was cruel to make him continue on in pain.

I know he was 110 in people years, but it still hurts. I loved that dog.

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If you feel like you are losing your mind this week, you are not alone. If you suffered from ritual abuse, you are very likely to be jumping out of your skin this week. Why? Because you are getting a double-whammy: Tomorrow night is the full moon, and then Sunday is Easter.

Why should any of this matter? If you suffered from ritual abuse, you were likely abused by the full moon and at Easter. Each of these events is likely to be triggering separately. Together, you can feel like you are going completely crazy and will never be okay again. This is a normal reaction to ritual abuse.

You are not losing your mind. You are reacting to very traumatizing abuse that you suffered as a child. It is normal for you to feel suicidal urges and to be feeling the need to engage in self-injury. You might have fallen off the wagon with your eating disorder or substance abuse. This is all completely understandable in light of what lies ahead through the weekend.

Do all that you can to make yourself feel safe. Now is the time to engage in positive coping tools and do things to nurture your wounded inner child. Be as kind and gentle with yourself as you can from now through the weekend.

Also, remind yourself that these feelings will not last. As terrible as you feel right now, these feelings will have an end. They will likely end soon after Easter passes. You are not going to stay in this dark and lonely place forever. The clouds will part, and the sun will shine again. You just need to hold on a little longer.

Photo credit: JulieC

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