Yesterday, I talked about my personal experiences with programming after ritual abuse. Today, I would like to focus on dismantling the programming.
The best resource I have found to help understand ritual abuse programming and how to dismantle it is Chrystine Oksana’s book, Safe Passage to Healing. If you suspect that you are battling programming, this book is a “must read” for you.
Here are some of Chrystine Oksana’s words on programming from the book:
To dismantle programming, pay attention to cues. These may be auditory such as words, phrases, names, tunes, whistles, patterns of knocks, and rings, or other sounds; visual cues may include symbols, pictures, writing, finger or hand signals; sensual cues may include special handshakes, running a hand over your face or your forehead, touch or pressure applied to the body, often in certain patterns, contact with certain fabrics. Try to associate taste and smells. Odors/perfumes can be cues as well. If there are explicit programmed messages or instructions, it is usually important to remember the exact words. ~ pp. 193-194
This was the most encouraging part of the book on programming:
The body/mind strives for health/wholeness, and spirituality. Ritual abuse programming runs counter to all of these. It acts as an unwelcome foreign body within the body/mind system. A healthy body-mind system will fight to expel this “foreign body”…As a result, survivors have an excellent prognosis for recovery. ~ p. 66
While the many mind control techniques may seem overwhelming, it’s important to remember that they all represent conversion under coercion. Traumatic learning begins to lose its hold once you uncover and confront your abuse. Once the coercion is brought into conscious awareness, you can choose not to act on it. You can refuse to play their game. ~ pp. 69-70
What I took away from reading the chapter on programming is that my best defense is healing myself. In my case, I had alter parts that had been programmed. For example, I had one alter part that was triggered by Sophie’s Choice kinds of positions. If my husband told me that I must choose between two unacceptable alternatives, this alter part would emerge and start banging her/my head. Healing this part of myself enabled me to make the choice whether to act on the impulse/programming.
I have found that healing the programming has been easier to do than healing the internalized messages that I gave myself, such as that I was fundamentally unlovable, etc. I refuse to allow someone else to control me, so I have the strength to fight back and choose not to act. This took some time and hard work, but I did it. The messages I told myself have been much more difficult to dismantle.
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Blooming Lotus 
Hi Faith,
Wow. Recovering from ritual mind control through sheer will power. Heavy stuff hon.
I worked as an Air Traffic Controller for over 20 years – years I didn’t know I had and showed very little signs of a Dissociative Disorder. During those years, I studied Hypnosis for my own de-stressing needs and was very good at both self-hypnosis and putting my friends and family under for fun and relaxation.
After being forced into retirement in 2003 due to PTSD that came about after 9/11 (I was, unfortunately, very involved that day), I took a few years off and just stayed in bed. Then I started studying Hypnosis again seriously. And I studied mind control techniques in depth for the past 18 months.
It wasn’t until I found out a few months ago about my own childhood and my Dissociative Disorder (DD-NOS) that my intense interest in hypnosis and mind control techniques started making sense. I don’t know if I was exposed to ritual abuse……but I do know that I’ve been programmed. Whether intentionally or just through repetition, I’ve been programmed and I am now on my way to de-programming myself.
But I’m doing that with hypnosis……With mp3s I’ve made for myself….with seminars and sessions where the other hypnotists know some of my story and work with me.
And I highly…..Highly…recommend this route. I specialized in working with others with PTSD and it’s a wonderful, non-invasive way to go. Unless you want to, there is no need to relive the memories. But there are many, many ways to clean the memories up, take the dirt away from them and give them back (if you want them) all shiny and free of negative feelings.
I guess what I’m attempting to say with this ramble is that you don’t have to go this route alone. There are people out there – hypnotists – who have the tools to help you de-program. (Your therapist may have these skills, most trauma therapists do. Or they many know a hypnotist they would feel comfortable referring you to).
Hang in there!
Mandy
A paragraph I was assigned to write by my t, but it didn’t follow what t actually wanted me to write.
I don’t think I should share it here.
I’m sure it is not as easy as it sounds… What a journey.
I will strive to recognize my own triggers, but it is so hard. They are so hardwired. One I know is separation from loved ones.
Thanks for the insight.
Mia
This message is for Mia, who posted on June 29, 2009 at 10.36 am.
Mia if you are interested in learning more about mind control, triggers and ritual abuse for the purpose of recognizing how these things are practiced, so you or others can reclaim your power to be able to heal, or make choices that dis-empower abusers, study the Illuminati, Satanic Ritual Abuse, MK Ultra (Monarch Mind Control) and especially read the free down loadable pdf, of The Illuminati Formula Used to Create an
Undetectable Total Mind Controlled Slave by Cisco Wheeler and Fritz Springmeier. You can Google all of these things and by following up on the leads, you will discover a wealth of information. I have been studying these things for several years now and you will be surprised the depth and magnitude of mind control that is used on the masses, not just, by individual abusers. I found this was exceptional information and invaluable for my own healing.
Faith, I wish to congratulate you on your work. No easy task, you’ve done it very well. Thank you.