Archive for November 10th, 2009

I am currently working through a Beth Moore study at my church entitled The Patriarchs. In one of the videos, Beth Moore shared a story that really touched me. A woman showed Beth a photograph of herself with her mother and grown daughter. She said that all three women – three generations – were battered women. She then showed Beth a picture of her baby granddaughter (generation #4). The woman said, “She will not be a battered woman.”

Beth went on to talk about how, if we make no changes, then the same behaviors will be passed down from generation to generation. If we want to see a change in our children’s lives, then we need to make that change in our lives. Otherwise, nothing will ever change.

As I shared yesterday, I am seeing in very tangible ways how I have broken the cycle of abuse. Anything in my life that I don’t want to pass down to my kid, I need to change in my own life. That change will have a ripple effect. Not only will I break that cycle of abuse for my child, but it will be broken for my grandchildren, my great-grandchildren, and all down the line. People who may never know my name will have a different life because **I** made the choice to change the direction of the family heritage.

If only my mother, grandmother, or great-grandmother had the courage to change the momentum of the abuse in our family, my childhood would have been vastly different. I am grateful that I have had the strength, courage, and determination to change this. I am certainly not perfect and have not fixed everything, but the family legacy that I will leave to my son and grandchildren will be vastly different from what was left to me.

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