Lighting a Candle to Honor a Dear Friend

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Lighting a Candle to Honor a Dear Friend

February 23, 2011 by faithallen

I have just learned that my friend, Lori, passed away yesterday. Lori was the owner and operator of Isurvive, which is the message board for child abuse survivors that helped me survive the flashback years. Even though we never met face to face, Lori was a dear friend. We were in regular contact through email, and she was very dear to me.

The members of Isurvive are lighting candles in her memory this evening, so I thought I would do the same here. Lori lived her life in a wheelchair, so I am envisioning her freed from the physical limitations of her body, freed from her emotional baggage, and dancing. If anyone ever deserved to dance, it’s Lori.

Lori ~ You are loved and will be missed by so many.

Photo credit: Faith Allen

22 Responses

on February 23, 2011 at 6:34 pm | Reply tai0316

I’m sorry about your friend. We don’t have to meet face-to-face to feel close to each other and to be friends.
on February 23, 2011 at 6:42 pm | Reply Shen

I’m so sorry for your loss. One doesn’t have to meet in the real world to have real feelings.
on February 23, 2011 at 6:52 pm | Reply Pandora

Oh Faith, that’s dreadful, I am so sorry :(. I only just joined Isurvive so never got the chance to know her, but for her to create and manage such an amazing resource must have meant she was a wonderful person.

So very, very sad 😦

RIP, Lori. x
on February 23, 2011 at 6:53 pm | Reply soulfulgrrl

Oh no. Oh my. I had no idea she passed. *Cry* Oh gosh! Lighting a candle for her too. So sad.
- on February 23, 2011 at 8:58 pm | Reply faithallen
  
  Hi, soulfulgrrl.
  
  She passed away yesterday. I just found out this afternoon. I had to have a good, long cry before I could pick up my son from school. :0(
  
  – Faith
on February 23, 2011 at 7:50 pm | Reply onesurvivor

Hugs.
on February 23, 2011 at 8:33 pm | Reply isurvivemember

thank you for honoring her here. we are all keeping candles burning. the site is such a haven, resource, community, gift.

a legacy she leaves us for sure.
- on February 23, 2011 at 8:58 pm | Reply faithallen
  
  Hi, isurvivemember.
  
  I have my candle burning in my bedroom as well as the one posted on this blog entry. I imagine Lori looking down on all of the candles and seeing them sparkling like stars — each one representing someone who loves her.
  
  – Faith
on February 23, 2011 at 8:35 pm | Reply seviepoh

I still can’t breathe without a sob…she has helped so many. There are very few who witness angels here on earth…we were so lucky to have known one in her.

as always,
sevi, et.al.
- on February 23, 2011 at 8:56 pm | Reply faithallen
  
  Seviepoh,
  
  Thank you so much for letting me know. I would have been devastated to find out weeks or months later. I really appreciate it.
  
  – Faith
on February 23, 2011 at 9:31 pm | Reply akhlsd

So sorry. Another candle burning here.
on February 23, 2011 at 9:48 pm | Reply mia

Safe hugs and candles burning here.

Peace,
mia
on February 23, 2011 at 10:09 pm | Reply Heath

So sad to hear this. I am a member of that site but had been busy and haven’t been on there too much lately, so this is the first I’ve heard. Very devastating. 😦
- on February 24, 2011 at 7:40 am | Reply faithallen
  
  Hi, Heath.
  
  Yes, it is devastating news. I hope that Isurvive will continue without her. I am just not sure how that will be handled logistically. I will try to be in on the meeting about it (since I am on the Board of Directors).
  
  – Faith
on February 23, 2011 at 11:11 pm | Reply ruby

Ohhh….I haven’t been on ISurvive this week. I will miss Lori so much. She helped me through some of my very darkest days. I have a hard time imagining her not “there.” Trying to catch my breath.

Lighting a candle.

Thankful for the Light Lori was and still is.

Full of sorrow that she is gone,

Ruby
- on February 24, 2011 at 7:41 am | Reply faithallen
  
  Hi, Ruby.
  
  I am so sorry for your loss. (Her passing is a loss to so many of us.) I don’t know how many people in my offline life will understand the need to grieve someone that I never met face-to-face, but I understand it, and I honor your relationship with her. Her passing truly is a loss.
  
  – Faith
on February 23, 2011 at 11:21 pm | Reply heavenly places

Oh how sad. 😦 “Tears”
on February 24, 2011 at 3:26 am | Reply Losing Your Healing Mentor « Blooming Lotus

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on February 24, 2011 at 3:37 pm | Reply Whoarewe

Crying….
We just joined the site few weeks ago. I was emailed her about mission fish via eBay because I wanted to donate to the site from my sales. She got back to me asking for more info but I never heard anything since. I was going to email her again soon. Just added her on my yahoo I’m too a week ago. She still shows as available on there. This is a shock.
I did not know her well at all, and certainly did not know about her health problems. I am so sorry she passes away.
We should try to keep the community going in her honor as well as many
other reasons.
I have not been on site for couple days. Am going there now.
Hugs to you and all the others who knew her very well and whom she had been a big support to.
If there anything I can do, please contact me through email.
on February 25, 2011 at 11:05 pm | Reply Brina

oh gosh 😦

our paths crossed years ago in another forum, she was a wonderful person.