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Attention all fellow bloggers – I need your help to try to earn a cash award for Isurvive. I wrote all about Isurvive on my last blog entry.

Isurvive could split $6,000 with four other worthy charities if we can get enough bloggers to write a brief blog entry about the charity. Isurvive operates on a shoestring budget, so (assuming that the cash award is split five ways), $1,200 will go a long way toward covering the 1-800 number and server charges for providing 24/7 support for child abuse survivors.

According to the latest tally, which you can view here, we only need around 17 bloggers to promote Isurvive on their blogs in order to move into second place. (As of when I am posting this, my blog entry from today was not yet tallied. I have another one coming tomorrow from my professional adoption blog as well.)

It will only take a few minutes to pop up a quick blog entry about this wonderful resource, and it could make a HUGE difference to a worthy charity. The deadline is June 6, 2009, so we don’t have much time.

If you would like to help out, please be sure to copy the following text into the bottom of your blog entry:

This blog post is part of Zemanta’s “<a href=”http://www.zemanta.com/bloggingforacause/”>Blogging For a Cause</a>” campaign to raise awareness and funds for worthy causes that bloggers care about.

This is how Zemanta tracks the blog entries. Thanks for your help!

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A fellow member of Isurvive, my favorite message board for survivors of child abuse, told me about Zemanta, which donates money to not-for-profit organizations that make a difference. The fellow member wrote about Isurvive on her blog, My Monster Has a Name. I am now going to do the same thing.

In November 2003, I started having flashbacks of being sexually abused by my mother. I thought I was losing my mind, and yet I knew that this was my truth. My life finally made sense – the eating disorder, panic attacks, nightmares, compulsive truth-telling, perfectionism, obsessive compulsive disorder, suicidal urges, etc. suddenly formed a profile of a child abuse survivor rather than being a bunch of separate, unrelated issues.

Isurvive quite literally saved my life. If I had not found Isurvive in my quest to understand what was going on with me, I might have taken my own life. I did not believe that I had the strength to face my sordid past. When I found Isurvive, I found a place filled with people just like me. For the first time in my life, I fit in somewhere! People who had experienced the same things that I was now experiencing were telling me that I was going to be okay. They walked me through the healing process. They believed me when I shared my “unbelievable” stories. They had faith in me to survive the healing process when I, myself, doubted from moment to moment whether the process was survivable.

Since then, I recovered so many memories of horrendous abuse that I now understand why I had so few memories of my childhood before the flashbacks. Through the urging of my newfound friends at Isurvive, I found a therapist. Isurvive offered a wonderful supplementation to therapy – a place where people understood and could tell me from a place of experience that I could survive the healing process.

Six years later, I serve on the Board of Directors for Isurvive. I have registered this blog as an Amazon affiliate, and every dime earned in commissions is mailed directly to Isurvive so that Isurvive can continue helping child abuse survivors in the same way that it once helped me.

Over the last six years, I have met, supported, and by supported by hundreds, if not thousands, of child abuse survivors at Isurvive. My life is so much richer for having been touched by these very giving people – all people who were once wounded beyond imagination and now have the courage to reach out and help heal others.

Note to readers — If Isurvive has touched your life, please consider writing about Isurvive on your own blog. If Isurvive gets enough blog entries, the charity could receive a cash award to help further its efforts.

This blog post is part of Zemanta’s “Blogging For a Cause” campaign to raise awareness and funds for worthy causes that bloggers care about.

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Hi, everyone!

I just wanted to leave you a quick administrative note about immediate support and feedback.

While I want to help everyone that I can, I have personal limitations. I am a mother of a child with ADHD who has been transitioning off one medication and onto another. I am very active in my kid’s school (put in over 10 volunteer hours last week for a big event at his school). I am starting a new part-time job for which I have been in intensive training for the past month. I write a professional blog for Adoption Under One Roof. I write this blog. I go through periods of struggling with emotional flashbacks where I have trouble doing any of the above. And now I have a cold, which has me feeling miserable at the moment.

Unfortunately, as much as I want to provide helpful and timely feedback, I cannot always do it right away. This is one of the reasons that I plug Isurvive so frequently. Isurvive is a safe place where you can get quick feedback because there are hundreds of child abuse survivors online at any given time who can respond to your needs.

I do eventually respond to every question that I receive, but I cannot promise how quickly I can respond. If you need immediate feedback, please post your question over at Isurvive. Isurvive is a message board for child abuse survivors, and it is very supportive.

I found Isurvive in December 2003, and the friends I made over there were instrumental in helping me heal from my issues. I serve on the Board of Directors for Isurvive today, and I have become good friends with Lori, who is the owner and operator of Isurvive. You are in good hands over there.

In the meantime, I have saved copies of the questions that people have left for me over the past month, and I will be responding to them on my blog. So, please be patient with me as I “unbury” myself from a backlog of questions.

Have a good weekend!

– Faith

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I have added a blogroll to my website. To date, I have only provided links to a couple of blogs that are resources for child abuse survivors rather than tracking individual stories:

I have become aware of many good blogs written by child abuse survivors, such as Beautiful Ashes, so I have decided to add a blogroll to my site. I have moved Forbidden Topic and What About When MOM is the Abuser? to the blogroll as well.

If you would like to include your blog on my blogroll, please post a link in the comments section or send me an email with the link. My email address is under ABOUT FAITH ALLEN at the upper right of the screen. I don’t want to post it here because then I will get spammed to death by bots. I will check out your blog and make sure it is appropriate for my readers and then add it to my blogroll.

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I added the blog What about when MOM is the abuser? to my resources list a while ago because that blog is well-written and researched. The author of that blog contacted me about a two-part series that he was writing entitled People See What They Want To See. You can read both parts here:

The articles help explain why people tend to see what they want to see, even when evidence to the contrary is standing right in front of them. These articles help explain why people believe that the abuser is a good person and fail to see the abuse.

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Yellow Flowers (c) Lynda BernhardtToday, I, along with seven other talented bloggers, launched our own adoption website. The primary reason I wanted “in” on this site is because I have the freedom there to post about the aftereffects of abuse in children who have lived in abusive households.

Many adoptive parents adopt their children out of foster care. Many children in the foster care system have suffered from abuse, neglect, or other forms of trauma. In my former job of blogging about adoption at another site, I would sometimes weave in some advice for adoptive parents who are raising children who have been abused. Adoptive parents of abused children would eagerly read over those posts and ask for more.

What was so surprising to me was how the things I shared about the mind of the abused child were news to those adoptive parents. (The exception was adoptive parents who themselves suffered abuse.) The adoptive parents were painfully aware of difficult behaviors to parent, but much of the advice and insight I passed along was news to them. That floored me because it all seems so obvious to me, but it is only “obvious” because I think like an abuse survivor.

So, I am very excited to be working on this new website. We are looking for ways to make it profitable, which would definitely be nice, but I am not in it for that reason. I am excited about having an opportunity to speak out on behalf of abused children and to share insights that the children are not yet in the position to share for themselves.

Life threw me some big lemons in my childhood, and I am so happy to be able to make so much lemonade with them. Each abused child that I help brings value out of what was otherwise a senseless and meaningless experience.

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Castle (c) Lynda Bernhardt

My son and I are off to Disney for a long weekend, so this will be my last post until next week.

I have posted quite a few articles on Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) on eHow.com. Feel free to check them out if you miss reading my articles while I am gone. :0)

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